“You just need to accept me as I am. I’m not going to change. “

Who is the one speaking here? It is only the mind/ego that makes a statement like this. You are not aware that you are being manipulated by your own mind. We all change. You will change if you want survive and evolve. The heart, conscious surrenders to change and lets go into awakening. It may be that your desire for someone to accept you as you are is because you do not accept yourself.

Yes, accept and love others as they are…and be aware of “spiritual bypass” that can cause people to resist working on themselves for the improvement of their relationship with themselves and you. If they aren’t willing to improve, you can  consciously transform the relationship to one that doesn’t affect you, if they continue as they are. But, be sure to heal your end of it.