“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.“ – Yoda
What Yoda says has truth in it. Fear comes from worry for the future and not accepting All That Is. Anger is due to the feeling of loss of control (fear). If there was enough fear, the very thing that was feared may actually manifest. The objectified, intensified action is then anger, but this anger is usually towards Self, since Self is the cause. This all leads to suffering or the feeling that “this was done to me” and “What can I do?”
“Our anger or annoyance are more detrimental to us than the things themselves which anger or annoy us”.
~ Marcus Aurelius (2000 years ago)
We have a choice of living our lives from love or from fear. Fear is something that is manufactured in our mind, concerning an event that has not happened. People who live in love, from their hearts, are happy and fulfilled; those who don’t are usually not happy and are conflicted and controlling. In all of your thoughts, words and actions, ask yourself “Is this thought , word or action coming from love or fear?” If it is coming from fear, then it is not real. Are you concerned about what other people may think about you? Are you worried about what your family may discover about you? Open up! Let everyone know who you are! Your family doesn’t know you, yet. Live life from love. Be brave. Absolutely refuse to waste one moment of your life marking time, hidden behind some fear of the unknown. Get out of the desert and into the sun. Ask yourself “What’s left to lose?” Be brave and be courageous. We all want to be accepted in our “tribe”, whether it’s our family, workplace, bowling club or religion. This was a challenge for me. I held back my truth for fear of alienating myself. I realized that the tribe that I was a part of wasn’t my real family. My tribe loved me, protected me, stood up for me…and it was time for me to move on. My real family materialized when I started to become fully my truest self.
Fear can really hold us back in so many ways. This morning, I realized that I had a problem with conjuring up a “worst-case scenario”. I would imagine a beautiful vision, what that vision would feel like and I would find my brain drifting off into a vision of something going wrong. I know where this came from. When I was twelve years old, I was happily playing tag next door with neighbor kids. One of my friends ran over and told me that a police car was at my house. “What’d I do?” I thought. I had no idea what could be going on. I left and went home to find my relatives there and the police just leaving. I walked into the house and immediately saw some of my relatives. One of the younger relatives smiled and laughed and said “I heard your Dad died!” I was in shock and he was probably as well. I felt so blind-sided by that and through not wanting to have that feeling again, I would make sure I covered all bases. I would imagine the “worst-case scenario” and make sure that wouldn’t surprise me.
As I started to “wake up” and learn more about self-mastery and accepting our emotions, I still didn’t know what to do with these thoughts, as they continued to show up in my life. What has now worked for me is to fully and completely allow them. To let them come in! To embrace the feeling. To feel this fear and acknowledge it and not try to push it away or hide it. Trying to push the fears away never worked anyway.
Here’s what I did to process my fears:
EXERCISE:, Consider this statement: “I’m so (angry, surprised, happy) ________ at myself.”
- Who is it that is angry/surprised/happy?
- Who is “myself”? Are there two of You?
- Which one of you experiences lack of love or anything?
- Which one are You?
- Who is having the experience?
EXERCISE: Focus on deep inhales and full, releasing exhales, then breathe in slowly. Think about the fear and scan your body for where you might be feeling discomfort. Money-related might be in the lower back. Decisions might be in the legs. Unsettling could be in the stomach. Sexual-related will be…yep, right there.
Allow it to be there and actually grow, if that’s what it feels like. Just don’t push it away or wish it wasn’t there. It’s there. Allow it to exist. Allow it to express itself and notice that you are still there, safe. Present yourself with what you are feeling: “I cannot help [my situation]” . Get to the feeling of this statement. Then, ask yourself “Where did this come from? Is this true?” The fear has wanted to keep you safe. You are safe. “Thank you Fear.” Now, give it to your heart. Your heart is many times stronger than any fear. Fear can find comfort within your heart. Now, release the fear into the Earth, into the Universe, into Oneness. Imagine the act of clapping two chalkboard erasers together. Poof! Do you see how we’ve made the fear something different than you? Fear is not You, but a thought created from your ego. You are always safe. Breathe deeply now. As you breathe in, breathe in light and love. And as you breathe out, allow that light and love to go to and fill the space where the fear used to be. Even if this exercise is too foreign for you, just the fact that you are looking at it and directing light towards it, will make all the difference. Rinse and repeat.
At a higher, quantum-level, some would say that by imagining those fears and welcoming them (but, not becoming fixated on them), we are creating the experience in another dimension of reality and thereby won’t need to experience it here in this dimension. Or not.
“Your power ends where your fear begins.” – Pleadian Wisdom
If you’ve ever had a past-life experience, you might have a unique realization. It is one that tells you that your past life was considered the only life and yet here you are without a memory of suffering or waiting. Now, this life is the point of focus and will also fall away at the perfect point of completion. Death is merging back into Source Energy. When the body has received all it could handle or when its job is complete, it returns to Source. We tend to think of death as the person that we know is dying. But, only the body dies, not the animator.
Being in the body is like being in an amazing scuba suit. It beautifully helps you experience the underwater world. There is beauty and danger and your amazing scuba suit does the best that it can. Your movements are limited by the suit and you need to use a breathing apparatus to exist in this watery dimension. At some point, over the years, the suit will have fulfilled its usefulness. You can either replace it with another suit or take yourself out of this world and take off the suit. Death is removing the suit. Hold your breath for as long as you can, like you are underwater. Then, when you can’t hold your breath any longer, grab the fullest inhale that you can. This gift of life is dying. This is our exit point back to Creator or Source Energy.
Death is another name for change. Surrender To death. Death takes every “thing” from you. Your toys, your beliefs, your ego, your need for food, your aches and pains, your suffering. Not your love. Not You. It’s all the same moment when we die. It is no different than when our bodies were living. Though, we will all experience dying, we will never experience death, because you cannot kill consciousness.
Why do people, if they are afraid of dying, kill their bodies with things that do damage to them and cause their bodies to fail and come closer to death? Others are fearful of death and do the very best that they can to live healthy lives. Still others are not fearful of death (because they know they don’t ever die), but do not take care of their bodies and live in joy of knowing they will always be. Finally, we can take care of our sacred vehicles and not be fearful of death. But, to be fearful of death and not take care of our bodies seems to be an insane way of living.
Apparently, our bodies weren’t designed to die. It’s just the way we treat them. Luckily, our bodies are constantly recreating themselves. The cells in our body are cycling through death and rebirth. Our brain and heart and skin and stomach…all being restored according to the environment that exists. We create that environment in every second, in every breath. In the end, everyone dies from suicide. What do you feed your body? Everything is energy. What energy do you feed your body? Do you feed your body love, good thoughts, uplifting movies, inspiring news, physical touch, natural foods and laughter?