If you’re having trouble finding words to express what you are feeling, take this as an excellent indication that you are communicating from a higher place. These moments are sometimes perfect opportunities for sacred silence. If you absolutely must shift this precious silence with words, speak only the poetry of love.
When you are awake and present, generous listening will precede selective speaking. When speaking, speak from your heart. Narrow your conversation down to your truth. What is here now? Is it true for You? Once you’ve narrowed this down, now only speak words of healing and love. Humans long for connection, so connect. Listen with your heart. See the other person as a gift. This is what happened back in Washington. I was given the chance to share from my heart. I wasn’t nervous about what I was going to share. I didn’t have any feelings of inadequacy or lack starting the “Delicious Dialog”. My message was one of Love and not about me.
When we communicate, sometimes we may find ourselves in disagreement. If you are arguing, try to let go of your investment. Realize another’s belief is their truth for them from their perspective, history and life experience. Sometimes, we create an argument because we know that we need a change in the conditions, are the person to make the change and don’t want to do it. If you honestly look back at any conflict you’ve experienced, it probably drove you to do something which was out of your comfort zone. When you lost your job, it probably opened up a better opportunity. If someone told you something that offended you, you were moved to stand firmly in your convictions or to take a deep look at yourself and thereby cause your own evolution. Within most arguments, we can realize that we are really just upset with our self.
People usually have preferred ways of communicating. They are influenced by these ways of communicating and their relationships tend to blossom when their preferred way is used. Some people love to give and receive gifts. It means so much to them to receive little gifts from their partner and are always thinking of their loved ones by the gifts they think will be perfect for them. Physical Intimacy or touch is important to others and you’ll find them walking hand-in-hand or driving with one hand on the wheel and the other on their partner’s leg. Quality time speaks to others and they live in the moment with their beloved. Still others enjoy words of appreciation and love.
Most people appreciate clarity. While creating a website for a client, I felt something out of alignment. I couldn’t put my finger on it. This person had been a client for over five years. He always makes me smile and laugh when we talk. He’s full of fun energy. That’s why it felt so weird for me to feel like something was off. It had something to do with setting boundaries. I called him and talked to him about it. He received it so well. We got clear about everything and even doubled the amount of work (and pay) that I would be getting. He was thrilled that I called and wanted to help in any way.
The words you speak are imperative to the joy you experience. If you always speak in a truthful way, using statements which reflect your loving affirmations which come directly from your heart, then this is the continued gifts you receive that you deserve. Imagine there is a little gnome who is recording everything you say and then fulfilling your life with what he has recorded. He will do his best to understand what you desire by what he interprets in the words you speak. If you are used to putting yourself down and complaining about life, then those beliefs will keep being presented to you within the world around you. If you are vague and unfocused, your life will give you “vague” and “unfocused”. If you speak only of love and gratitude, life will present those as well. I use Facebook in this way. Some complain about the loss of privacy and the incredible stream of data being placed in front of us. I use it as a metaphor for creating my world. I “Like” this and “Hide” (remove) that. Then, as I get more clear on what I want to see, more of that is provided to me. I also started to “Unfriend” people that I no longer “resonate” with, meaning we just don’t have life content in common. If I attract them back into my life, then we’ve got something that’s pulling us in. There could be a better word than “Unfriend”, but it does the trick. I trust people will do the same with me.
On the scientific level, all beings, planets and stars are made up of an energy field called a ‘toroidal field’. This toroidal field, in the shape of a donut, is an electro-magnetic field, which, together with spin, causes gravity. This electro-magnetic, gravitational field (EMGF) attracts matter. Whatever the EMGF is tuned to will attract to itself. This is exactly the same as our physical beings. This is all to say that what we put out (words, actions, thoughts), we will attract back to ourselves. It’s just science. So, be aware of what you are thinking and saying to yourself and others and how you are saying it. Don’t worry, we haven’t yet evolved to instantaneous manifestation, but check this out:
EXERCISE: I’ll present a word or a phrase and then give you something to replace it with.
“Need” into ”Claim”. Instead of “I need a partner”, “I claim the best partner for me, one that honors who I am and speaks in my love language”.
“Can’t” into “Could or Can”. The great thing about “could” is that something that you might think is definitely not possible, “could” gives it a chance. From there you move to ‘can’.
Here’s an easy one. “Try” into ”Do”. “I will try” has a couple things going on…”will” and “try”. Can you feel the lack there? “Am doing” sounds and feels better, doesn’t it?
“No” into “Yes”. Ok, you are probably feeling like maybe “Yes” isn’t the appropriate answer for every situation. You’re thinking of a life-threatening situation where you, or worse, your children are being attacked. “Yes” is the answer to everything. “Yes, an attack is happening. There’s no hiding from it. It is happening.” Now, you can make a decision to say “Yes” to survival by either not defending or defending. If it’s your children, first know that they are also creators, as you are. I am not proposing that you sit and watch. Go and take your appropriate action. The scene was created for everyone, by everyone. There are no victims. That can be a tough pill to swallow. I know this can be a real button for some people, especially when you bring in the idea of child molestation and world hunger and suffering. You can never be a victim. Be brave here. There are no victims. You are in victim consciousness if you think anyone can be a victim. You can choose to justify the belief that you could, in fact, be victimized. But, how does this serve you? We are disempowering ourselves when we choose this belief. We empower ourselves when we realize that we are always creating. Honor the creator in everyone, whatever that creation looks like.
Now repeat after me “I am not a victim, as there can be no victims, ever. As my consciousness is ever rising, I now receive, accept and allow all forms of love, prosperity, gifts, miracles and fulfillment of my soul.”
If mass shootings, bombings, wars and other crimes are still happening, then this means that they are a part of our world and the collective consciousness. If this is true, then what is a wayshower or lightworker to do? For me, the answer is to do things which bring me joy and fulfillment and one of those things is to wake people up. I don’t normally have first-hand experience with these stories of darkness and are usually only fed to me if I take part in a controlled and manipulated news system, so this tells me it isn’t part of my reality. Still, I can’t help but continue to uncover and replace any thoughts or beliefs that perpetuate anger or fear.
This leads us to “They”. There is no “They”. There is only “I”. Not the “I” as in the identity of you, but the big “I”, the All-That-Is “I”, the drop of water within and as the ocean. Before we get too deep in this ocean, let’s try some more. “I could never” becomes “How exciting!”. “How exciting it’s going to be to accomplish this.” “I forget” becomes “I am sure I will remember.” “There’s nothing I can do” becomes “I am sure I’ll find an answer.” Here’s one more. “Life is terrible!” becomes “I am sure there is something in this experience for me.” Life and creation are based on contrast and preference. When we are faced with “Life is terrible!” we automatically have the opportunity to create a thought or desire of what we’d prefer to experience. Now, if we get stuck in the muck, even when there’s no more muck in front of us, then that will continue to be our experience. “Yes, I’m in the muck. This other thing is what I’d prefer. Now, I’m no longer in the muck. I claim…” You get it?